Skip to content


Why am I passionate about this?

I am captivated by memoirs that shed light on the deeper life experiences of their authors. My curiosity about inner life compelled me to learn about the psychological essence of memoir writers, resulting in my writing a memoir from an in-depth psychological perspective. My curiosity also led me to become a psychotherapist, which helped me better navigate dark and uncertain waters with my clients. By probing the inner psychological dynamics of such memoirs, I learned more about myself and became a writer with rare psychological insight. Such illumination served to ignite my very soul. My passion is fueled by tapping the mysteries of what lies within us all. 

Read My List on

Reviews for The Lost Coin

Unusual Candor and Humility

Stephen Rowley writes with this unusual candor, and humility about a subject that remains surprisingly controversial. People with their birth families rarely question or ponder the profundity that comes with adoption, being raised hopefully with a family that loves you yet is not related to you by blood, and who may not look like you. As Rowley brilliantly demonstrates, a sense of searching can come to said individuals, a wanting to trace back their roots. He mixes objective reasonings as a bonafide psychotherapist and author, and his own experience as an adoptee to create a rich, dynamic, and somewhat guiding work addressing these issues, and the ramifications both positive and negative that can arise from said issues.


Hollywood Digest

Interesting and Engrossing

After reading ‘The Lost Coin’  by Stephen Rowley, I could relate with all those faces….For people who wanted to sneak peak in an adoptee’s life, this book should be the first choice.


Saby Reviews

A Happily Found Treasure

In his heartfelt and searching memoir, Rowley digs deeply into the complex psychology of the adoptee as one who requires of himself a well of unsparing personal introspection.


Anthony Pomes

A Must Read to Understand Impact of Adopted Children & Adults

The Lost Coin: A Memoir of Adoption and Destiny shares Stephen Rowley’s search for his birth parents and his identity—but it’s more than a singular account of tracking down biological creators.

Within this journey lie encounters with other worlds that Rowley didn’t anticipate, from visiting Chicago and being shocked by its blatant racial segregation and poverty to his radical college years, which led to school administrator ideals that hit a hard wall when he was fired by a politically biased school board.

His motivations for embarking on many journeys of discovery within one lifetime reflected an underlying yearning for connection and understanding that stemmed from his identity as an adoptee and the psychology of unresolved and unknown past influences.
These facets set his memoir apart from most other adoptee discussions of their life purposes and encounters, injecting a note of growth and discovery into its insights about how and why adoptees feel the need to better define their roots and absorb truths about their birth influences.

The juxtaposition of a life story and a life purpose receives close inspection as Dr. Rowley narrates his experiences, his clashes with authority, and the evolution of his personal and career goals, which were always overlaid with the reality of his adoptive status.
Anyone who would better understand the incarnation and impact of adoption on children and adults needs to read The Lost Coin. As it moves through Rowley’s life, it also considers the lasting and bigger picture of personality development and life choices that can stem from questions of origin.

The resulting blend of autobiography and adoptee psychology needs to be made a part of any book club discussion or library strong in analyzing the wellsprings of personality, drive, ambition, and life purpose.

D. Donovan
Senior Reviewer
Midwest Book Review